Menjadi orang tua emang perlu latihan mental ya. Bukan hanya untuk menghadapi anak, kelelahan, dan lain lain. Yang baru dirasain setelah punya anak, dan belum terpikirkan sebelumnya adalah menghadapi orang lain. Semenjak punya anak pasti interaksi kita ke orang lain juga beda, yang dirasain sekarang, semua lebih jadi anak-minded, ngobrol tentang anak, bisa santai ngobrol atau engga tergantung mood anak.
But what I've been struggling lately- and it so bother me is, how to handle other's comment about us and the kid. Because.. I don't know, maybe I'm such a over-thinker. I think we have to be fair, we have to think other's comment, if it's good and improving, we should consider, but if it's just a comment that meaningless, it's just bother me.
I mean some people are just like to comment what they feel, and it's just like moody and so inconsistent. I know we can't expect people to nice to us. We can't change them. Just deal with it. The problem is, when I get one, I usually overthink, what if I take this/that action, what other we react, and sometimes it doesn't come good to the matter one (my beloved kid). I always try not to be baper and be objective, I am struggle with that. Hopefully Allah gave the strength for my body and soul, so I can give my best to the little one. Aamiin...
But what I've been struggling lately- and it so bother me is, how to handle other's comment about us and the kid. Because.. I don't know, maybe I'm such a over-thinker. I think we have to be fair, we have to think other's comment, if it's good and improving, we should consider, but if it's just a comment that meaningless, it's just bother me.
I mean some people are just like to comment what they feel, and it's just like moody and so inconsistent. I know we can't expect people to nice to us. We can't change them. Just deal with it. The problem is, when I get one, I usually overthink, what if I take this/that action, what other we react, and sometimes it doesn't come good to the matter one (my beloved kid). I always try not to be baper and be objective, I am struggle with that. Hopefully Allah gave the strength for my body and soul, so I can give my best to the little one. Aamiin...
--- draft from aug 2018
Now: bismillah, niat kita Allah yg tahu.. harapkan ridho Nya, bukan manusia
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